Happiness Part 1- Appreciation and Reaction.

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Also, some incidents I have faced.

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Happiness Part 1- Appreciation and Reaction.

First to define happiness we must understand what happiness is not. It is not excitement, anxiety, being surprised or having butterflies in your stomach. It is being in-peace, being stable and being in-control.

Now, almost 99% of what we do is for our, or someone else s' happiness (parents, friends, teachers etc.). The funny thing here is actually that, even after our tremendous efforts, we are NEVER 100% happy.

Many times what we do, doesn't get as much appreciation as we feel is required. So, we get upset and perhaps angry with the person who didn't appreciate us. Like the other day, I did a lot of household chores, by choice, and when my mother came back from home from work, she didn't say anything about. Not even a word.

Naturally, I got upset and kept "begging" for her appreciation. This is a very common situation in our lives, a mother “begging" for appreciation from her kids when she makes a meal for them, a friend "begging" for appreciation from another friend after buying him a gift, even to the extent of "begging" for appreciation when we do social service. 

Thinking about this habit of "begging", we understand that, it is for our happiness. This is clearly because we feel that appreciation from another person gives us happiness.

We feel, all these external factors, which are obviously not in our control (unless we have super-powers), are the factors that our happiness is dependent on. But as we know the only thing one can control is himself/herself. And that is the answer we have been searching for: Happiness comes from within.

All we need to do now is change our perspective. 

To change our perspective, first we need to be in-peace no matter what situation we have to face. Secondly, we shouldn't base our action ONLY for the sole purpose of another person’s reaction. Thirdly, be prepared for the worst outcome, (don't think negative, but just be cautious) because other people can be very unpredictable.

The objective of doing the household chores, for me, was only to gain my mother’s appreciation. However, if I would have done the chores for the sake of seeing the house clean, and taking it as a part of my duty as a member of the family, I wouldn't have realized that my mother didn't acknowledge it.

Now, even if I didn't change my thinking that way, if my mother didn't appreciate, I should try and understand that, her reaction is beyond my control. If she is a person who would otherwise appreciate, something is obviously not going well with her too. May be she faced a few problems during work or had to face heavy traffic.